Controlling one's emotions, a way to keep life simple.

Emotions lie.

Humans have an animal brain : that is basically an emotion generator and a thinking brain : that wastes a lot of time justifying the animal brain’s emotions.

But emotions lie. And justifying them is a waste of time. Just because you feel angry doesn’t mean anyone MADE you angry. It doesn’t mean you are JUSTIFIED in feeling angry. It means your animal brain was upset and as a natural tendency, one tends to blame someone/something for it. This blaming tendency or let me put it delicately, the process of 'giving your emotion a name' is nothing but a lengthy process full of justifications, tensions, evaluating repercussions, etc etc, which eat up a lot of time and positive energy.

Recognize emotions, accept them, but don’t let them control your mood or your thinking. Always remember not to take things personally. Other people have their own fears, desires, needs that drive their behaviour. It rarely has anything to do with you personally!